Sunday, January 8, 2017

Have you ever heard of a "Side Hug?"

A side hug is a display of affection in which a person hugs another by putting one arm around their shoulders rather than both arms around them. I first heard about a Side Hug from my grandchildren who attend a Christian school in AZ with lots of rules. And one of them happen to be a Side Hug, especially among the junior and high school students. The motivation behind the Side Hug is that the frontal hugs allow two parties crotches to touch, apparently emulating sexual activity. 
Many volunteer organizations like evangelical churches mandate staff members and volunteers not to fully hug children in their care or when dealing with people of the opposite sex. This allows for intentions to be evident. 
I also heard side hugs were evidenced in the show, the Duggars. They according to their religion have certain rules of courting. They're certain guidelines about dating, courtships and engagement. You cannot kiss, front hug, or hold hands during dating. 
I learned something new from my kids, and just wanted you to hear or maybe remind you of this little tidbit of information. Never too old to learn. Thanks folks.  

 Mama McNabb

Monday, January 2, 2017

Happy New Year

Look forward to more to come in 2017! 

Mama McNabb

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Service dog, my eye!

I was in Walmart this week doing a little shopping while getting my much need steps in. I try to do the minimum 10,000 steps but fail miserable most of the time. I recently got 8600 in. Back in the day before hip surgery with and without trainers, plus I was younger, it wasn't a problem. Anywho it's not about my steps it's about my terror in the Walmart. As I said I'm shopping, pushing my own self cart and low & behold I see folk moving to one side of the aisle looking like they were in terror. As my eyes look in the same direction of other customers, I see a gray swollen pit bull walking along side of his master. He was big, and looked vicious with no leash holding master. He had a " Service Dog" vest on.  Funny how a week prior to this we spoke of this very same subject on how a friend of ours had a service dog certificate for his dog so he could go anywhere he went without problems. It's simple to register you dog on line. Federal law prohibits discrimination of breed, size, training level or age of any EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OR SERVICE DOG.  Whaaaaaaaaaaaat! Back in the day, there was simple German Sheppards that were good family dogs, non terrorizing like these dogs here. I felt intimated by these so call service dog and the master was probably in his own glory watching people move out of his way and stop like a funeral line was passing! I didn't like it and rumble, mumble and fumbled words you'd never thought I would say ( well my friends know better). This is a darn shame and its out of hand, to me., 
As I go to the checkout line to pay for my purchases, there comes the gray looking monster with his/her master in tow and guess what, a leash in hand! Whaaaaaaat! Where security and the po-po and folk in management are, you put a leash in your hand. I'm appauled. The young teller says he's been in this store before, so I say he can bring him because he's registered as a " Service Dog" and guess what she says to me " oh he was in the service?" 

Done. Done, done. Drop the mic. 😱

Mama McNabb, smh

Monday, December 5, 2016

Post Thanksgiving Time

Hope you had a great Thanksgiving with family and friends. I did especially this year because my oldest son, Sean was able to join us. My baby boy with his wife and granny's babies too. All in a warm place together. The usual food, we all pitched in. Desserts with Patti LaBelle sweet potato pie.  I'm the only one that eats it because my funny acting kids act like didn't grow up on it! I try to introduce my grands to African American foods! Greens, sweet potatoes, grits, corn bread, salmon croquette. Theyre strange kids, living in Arizona. My daughter in law is Canadian, her parents are from Trinidad. Different dishes and tastes. But anyhow we ate our food with cornbread dressing and enjoyed each other.  We played Giant Jenga games, and laughed at each other.  Went to the ocean, pool and shopping mall. These kids of mine are the most travelled you'd ever want to meet. They left AZ to Houston, Dallas and then FL.  This weekend they went to CT to watch their cousin play basketball. If you saw how thes grands of mine ages 7, 8 & 11 go through the TSA line, removing backpacks, taking off shoes, jackets and watches, like any business traveling adult, it would make you laugh. They probably have more frequent flyers miles than me! Holidays are about family and good friends so I pray that as we approach Christmas, your heart will be warmed with the love & hugs from whomever you choose to be with. 

Mama McNabb

Thursday, November 17, 2016

Top Ten Sayings

Daniel Starch, a business research consultant, has come up with a list of America's favorite sayings. You could call it our top ten principles for living.  

10. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
9.  Actions speak louder than words.
8. Knowledge is power. 
7. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.
6.  The only way to have a friend is to be a friend. 
5.  The greatest essentials of happiness are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. 
4. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
3. Anything that's worth doing at all is worth doing well. 
2. Know yourself. 
And the number one favorite sayings is...........

Do into others as you would have others do unto you...

What do you think? 

Mama McNabb 

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Scratching my head

I'm still in shock I guess after Tuesday's historical event! The election results, really unbelievable.. I'm still looking side eyed like, really??? So as I scratch my head in disbelief, I will wait to wake up to something different. Hopefully sooner than later... 

Mama McNabb

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Go Cubs Go

Never thought I'd have Cubs fever! Watching baseball to me is like watching "paint dry" but this World Series has been different. I've sat at a many of football games at most of the NFL stadiums. I can't think right now which stadiums I haven't been too.. Anyhow it's baseball for now and I hope Chicago gets a Championship this time! 

Mama McNabb

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Anniversary Celebration

This past weekend we celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary. I kept on counting the wedding date to now, my oldest sons birthday to now and still can hardly believe it til now! 45 years, huh? I still tell everyone I'm 50 years old!!!!  Well that's a lifetime already. That's too long for anybody. That's unbelievable even to me. That's LONG. You know during this time, there's been good times and bad but we stayed. He's never left me. And for me I may have checked out in my head a few times. Present by the body but absent by the mind. A ploy I'm sure many women have played.. As you think to yourself, " am I stupid or what?" I remember years ago saying to my cousin, 'I feel used" and she responded, "we've all been used at one time or another ." So we trod along, un-numb ourselves and keep it moving. I'm thankful for the marriage, he's been a good husband, provider and most especially Father. That keeps me happy because my sons love and appreciate their dad! He raised them to be honest, and worthy God fearing men. That makes me happy. So at 45 years of marriage, as an example to the younger I say if I can do it so can you. Be strong in your faith, and know that God is with you. It had to be with me, otherwise I couldn't have made it this far. I got married at 16, he was in the Navy. We moved to Long Beach, CA. Had our sons, went to college, bought homes, sent sons to college, son got married and now grandchildren all in 45 years. Whoa, I'm tired now! Anyhow we are good this year, 2016. Thank you Lord. 

No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. ( 1 John 4:12 NLT )

Mama McNabb

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Network at the Bold Move Event

Yes it is a Bold Move to change careers after the age of 50. Who does that? Well sometimes you're forced to do it after a job loss. Careers are not usually started at this late age but few have done it! I remember working for a woman at Alpha Christian Registry and she was in her golden years when she started the nursing registry. My office was located in Chicago Heights. The corporate office was in Aurora. She had many offices in the Chicagoland area. Well my career changed from an Registered Nurse to a business owner and Philantropist, record label owner to writing lyrics, producing songs and selling apparel. It's fun, meeting new people. In between and after nursing ( although you know you never stop or forget your nursing) I was President of the Professional Football Players Mothers Association.  As I participate in this Bold Move Event , I'm learning and remembering a lot of old and new information. We have millinials telling us how and why social media has become such a major part of business. I and anyone else who needs to expand their business need to know this and get on board. Well I'm on my way down for day 2 of this conference. It will consist of the Psycology of Leading, Developing A Strategy To Gain & Keep Customers and much more. Consider this event next year. Thanks! 

Mama McNabb
The Boss

Monday, October 3, 2016

Take your seat at the table, my friend

The last 6 weeks or so has been sad for me. I've had too many of my friends pass away. Gone too soon I would say. Some younger than me. I remember when I was younger and I would see my Mom and people older always going to a funeral almost every week and I would say man, you act like professional funeral goers. But now that I have gotten at a particular age, I understand. Sadly but yes I get it now. I'm about to tell you a story of the last funeral I attended of a friend who was vibrant and loved to dance, stepping if you're from the Chi. (Chicago) This friend moved into the house directly behind my house. I was happy to see her and her husband move there, because the previous owners and other neighbors on her block & mine did not like when my family & I bought the house we lived in. ( we were the first African American family to move on this block! Ha, you can read that story later. Oh they defaced my new home before we could move in) ok I'm not going there today! Well my friend Denese bought the house and lo and behold she was married to another friend we knew and grew up in the same neighborhood, same high school Michael Billinger. Micheal had been a standout football player in high school. At Morgan Park High School and after college he coached at our Alma-mater. Anyhow the friendship grew and our kids grew up together! We would celebrate holidays together. We put a fence up around the house because we had a basketball court in the back, but a gate in the back so their kids could play and it was easy for them and us to go back & forth. Well as life moves along we moved they moved, kids grow up, Michael passes away and we loose contact with each other except occasionally running into her and her Mom in the shopping centers. We have a mutual friend that goes to our church who called and told the Mr/Sam that Denese was planning a birthday/retirement celebration and wanted us to come. If anyone knows us, we had been on the road traveling for 15 years or so as our #2 son Donovan played college and professional football. So now he has retired and we have reduced that road gigging tremendously. So we were ecstatic that we would be here to go! We rejoicefully replied to see her celebrate her Sassy, Classy, Jazzy Sixtieth birthday( on the invite) and retirement too! It was going to be a dress to impress White Affair Adults Only party at a fancy place. Dinner served promptly at 8pm on October 8, 2016. 
On Saturday September 24, (after attending another sad Memorial service on 10/23 ), my cousin texts me the sad news that Denese had passed away! I was devastated and I didn't want to believe it. We quickly called the mutual friend who hadn't even heard that God awlful news herself! It was true, she had passed away, doing what she loved to do with her second husband step dancing. Oh my God, I didn't get to see her, to catch up, and laugh or dance as she celebrated life. No, she was gone and left behind her Mother, husband, children, grandchildren, family & friends. 
The preacher said at her funeral she didn't know but God knew she was planning her own heavenly party as all of us who had rsvp attended on Oct 1, dressed to impress in our White Attire. Standing room only!  I got a chance to see the kids, her Mom, brother, extended Billinger family again. As they all told me she was so excited that we would be at her party!!! So rest in heaven Denese Porch, you already have your seat at the table. 

Mama McNabb